Thank you for your comment Stephen! I am reasonably confident that I can get much further if I approach discussions with trying to understand the other side. That is often challenging, but it is worth trying.
This framing is brilliant becasue it cuts through so much of the needless friction I've seen teams grind against. The part about externalizing with "challenge" really shifts the dynamic from adversarial to collaborative. One thing I'd add tho is that timing matters too - dropping these phrases in a standup vs a roadmap review can land super differently. Been in situations where evn perfect wording couldn't overcome the wrong context dunno if that's universal or just my experience.
Can appreciate this framework. One thing I’ve learned is to “replace judgement with curiosity”.
Thank you for your comment Stephen! I am reasonably confident that I can get much further if I approach discussions with trying to understand the other side. That is often challenging, but it is worth trying.
This framing is brilliant becasue it cuts through so much of the needless friction I've seen teams grind against. The part about externalizing with "challenge" really shifts the dynamic from adversarial to collaborative. One thing I'd add tho is that timing matters too - dropping these phrases in a standup vs a roadmap review can land super differently. Been in situations where evn perfect wording couldn't overcome the wrong context dunno if that's universal or just my experience.
Thank you for you comment - it is an excellent point and it leads to a larger discussion on when is the right time to resolve unclear items.
Having to wrangle wrong expectations is going to get tricky in a middle of a tight work loop.